Or: The tactless things people say to stay-at-home moms, new moms and pregnant women.
(culled from things people have said to me as well as your contributions)
Stay-at-home moms
- What do you do all day?
- You must get bored just sitting there with your kids.
- Yes, you probably need a break from working.
- The man should bring home the bacon.
- You look tired.
- Wow. You quit your job?!
New moms
- When are you going to have another one? (said to me when my daughter was 2 months old)
- When is your stomach going to return to normal? (said to me a week after my baby was born)
- Are you pregnant again? (said to me after 3 months while looking at my stomach)
- You look tired.
- You should eat more so your milk will come in.
Pregnant women
- I could never have kids. My life would be over. (said to me instead of “Congratulations!”)
- Are you still here? (said to me at work, over and over, during my 6th, 7th and 8th months)
- You look like you’re about to pop. (see above)
- Let’s get sushi.
- You look tired.
- You must be having twins.
- Are you eating again?
- You shouldn’t be eating that!
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January 2, 2010 at 4:37 pm
Things not to say to stay-at-home moms/pregnant women/new moms:
“Was it an accident?” (Asked when I was pregnant. Yes, I tripped and fell on my husbands’…)
“You’re not going to let her grow up alone, are you?” Our daughter is an only child.
“Can you afford to stay at home?” I replied “Probably not, but I’m gonna do it anyway.”
And of course all the stupid advice you hear about: to have a sweet baby, eat lots of candy. Or, don’t put your hands over your head, you’ll strangle the baby. (I wanted to strangle them.)